- How to be the Dominant
- Role Playing BDSM for beginners
- Beginners Guide to Anal sex done right
- Guide to hoods & sensory deprivation
- Getting partners into the kinky game
- Beginners First Bondage Scene
- What BDSM Isn't
- The Dos & Don'ts in BDSM
- Laying the groundwork
- The Joy of Anal Sex
- How to get the juices flowing
- You are what you are
- Spank My Booty
- Staying Alive
- A First Public Scene
- Why We Like What We Like
- Nothing Says I Love You Like...
- Caring For Your Toys
- A Guide To Fisting For Fun
- Humiliation, Tying Up, and Exposed Genitals
- The Art of Wax Play
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Staying Alive
Imagine you met someone, maybe online, maybe in real life. Imagine then that you decided you didn't want to be there anymore. So you just walk away. The problem is that it’s kinda hard when you’re in bondage.
99.999% of the BDSM community are caring, respectful and will help in anyway possible. However there is always the odd one. There are however several ways to minimise the risk. Most of it is common sense once you heard it.
The first of the several most obvious things to do is to find out the persons real name and their address and telephone number and VERIFY IT. Its all well and good going to meet someone called GoreLord_101 but if things go wrong who is more traceable? Now you may think people would be offended when you ask. Any real life kinkster shouldn't mind one bit, after all, it shows that safety is a major concern of yours.
The next step is to ask around the community for references for this person. Often if the player is a long-standing member of the community and known to be safe and sane you'll get a lot of positive feedback. Obviously new people do not have the luxury of being known, but over time things will become better for them.
Meet them for a first meeting in a high profile area where there are lots of people. This helps reduce the risk and lets you get to know the person, and gives you an idea if you want to meet this person before you have committed to anything.
Most importantly, if you do decide to play with these people, make sure someone knows where you are meeting and playing and arrange a safe call. A safe call is where you arrange with a KNOWN AND TRUSTED person to call you on your cellphone at a certain time to check you are ok and that things are ok. Just double check your batteries are charged.
A mundane but not often used safeword can help. If the safeword is not used in the conversation, there is a problem. At this stage the person on the other end, your trusted friend should waste no time and go directly to the law, no messing about. This is potentially life and death. See why it had to be a trusted person?
After having said all this, it is very rare indeed for anything to go seriously wrong. As previously stated 99.999% of the people you will meet are honest, forthright and caring. It just pays to be safe, and its better to be oversafe than not.
