- How to be the Dominant
- Role Playing BDSM for beginners
- Beginners Guide to Anal sex done right
- Guide to hoods & sensory deprivation
- Getting partners into the kinky game
- Beginners First Bondage Scene
- What BDSM Isn't
- The Dos & Don'ts in BDSM
- Laying the groundwork
- The Joy of Anal Sex
- How to get the juices flowing
- You are what you are
- Spank My Booty
- Staying Alive
- A First Public Scene
- Why We Like What We Like
- Nothing Says I Love You Like...
- Caring For Your Toys
- A Guide To Fisting For Fun
- Humiliation, Tying Up, and Exposed Genitals
- The Art of Wax Play
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- ElectroSex Gear
- Dildos & Insertables
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As we all know it can be a hard subject to brace. The awkwardness of a no chance after u explain what you'd like to try.
So the question is how do you break the ice. Obviously softly softly in the approach and hope for the best or......
To allow you to both put forward your kinks in a "safe" environment use this idea. Creating a dare game, but with the adult themes where both of you get Get yoursef a dozen sheets of pink paper and a dozen sheets of blue (pink for girls, blue for biys) and then cut them up into medium sized cards.
Then get a couple of pens, and write on each card a smallish intimate or kinky thing you would like to have done to you. Bare in mind that this is based on a gentle introduction to kinkyness, so don't put down anything too time consuming or too extreme. It's a good idea to set aside say an hour and a half in the bedroom, all warm and relaxed and to put a rule in place that limits any one card to a maximum of 5 minutes activity time, that way you both get to take turns. Bare in mind that some of them may involve orgasming, and men, once orgasmed can be hard work (f you will excuse the pun) If one does involve orgasm, it is perhaps left to be the last card, as to orgasm mid game would just be bad form and unfair.
Once you and your partner have filled the cards, take a dice, (or is it die ?) and decide who goes first. Roll the dice and whatever the score take that number off the pile and place it at the bottom and turn over the next card. This card is what your partner will hopefully do to you (see why you had to keep it relatively tame ? )
So now it turns to your partner and their turn to roll a number. So now you have to act out their fantasy on the card. Now this is where you can be clever because, as these cards are written by the person who wants to recieve them, rather than ideas written by someone else. Take mental notes of what your partner likes, ie whats on the cards.
Also it allows you to see what your partner likes without being blatent and blurting it out and perhaps putting them under pressure.
Of course, if you are out of ideas or want to spice things up a little theres nothing wrong with the games already written. But its best when it comes from the heart if you get the idea.
If you like the idea and would to advance it further, with a little twist, read on....
Due to the nature of time constraints and not knowing what kinky ideas your partner has commited to paper, it may not be possible to do what they would like to try in the time frame available. This is where "Kinky cheques" come in. We have all seen them around low budget bookstores and the like. Buy some (they aint expensive) and if you don't have time, write them a cheque to do whatever it is, to be cashed in when you have more prep time, play time or toys. You know what it can be like.
Obviously the idea is limited by a) how honest you and your partner are on your cards, as well as how at easy you feel with each other and doing those acts on the card, but at the end of the day it has distinct advantages because
a) You are recording it in a fun way
b) It will spare a lot of embarrasement, for example not having to pull "wants" out of people or a partner not being able to say "Look just pee in my mouth will you ;))
c) It's cheap and only limited by how kinky you can get and what you can do in a certain time frame.
