- How to be the Dominant
- Role Playing BDSM for beginners
- Beginners Guide to Anal sex done right
- Guide to hoods & sensory deprivation
- Getting partners into the kinky game
- Beginners First Bondage Scene
- What BDSM Isn't
- The Dos & Don'ts in BDSM
- Laying the groundwork
- The Joy of Anal Sex
- How to get the juices flowing
- You are what you are
- Spank My Booty
- Staying Alive
- A First Public Scene
- Why We Like What We Like
- Nothing Says I Love You Like...
- Caring For Your Toys
- A Guide To Fisting For Fun
- Humiliation, Tying Up, and Exposed Genitals
- The Art of Wax Play
- New Items
- Bondage Gear
- ElectroSex Gear
- Dildos & Insertables
- Vibrating Sex Toys
- Cock and Ball Toys
- Fucking Machines
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- Mouth Gags
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- Bedroom Bondage
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- Fetish Clothing
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Nothing says I love you like...
a collar. If you watch enough big budget no clue bondage films you will see a supposedly dominant person wearing a collar. Most true kinksters realise the "oops" factor in that. However in the real lives of kinksters, collars are not given to partners lightly. To most kinksters, a collar means two things:
1. The person it belongs to is spoken for. It doesn't mean you can't talk to them, just bare it in mind that in the eyes of most BDSM players it is as serious as a ring on the wedding finger is.2. It's a sign of love and devotion. Collars always remain the property of the Dominant. They are worn with pride and a sense of pride and belonging, to his or her Master/Mistress. It is a way of proudly saying out loud that their Master/Mistress loves them enough to give them their collar.
Not all collars are huge 2" high posture collars. Indeed most collars are so discrete, people unaware of BDSM wouldn't recognise it. They can come in a range of materials, colours, size and severity.
A good Dominant will realise that although certain collars may seem more kinky than others, but are impractical for daily use. It should be a joint decision because (hopefully) it will be worn for a long time.
Now just because you have one collar does not mean you can't have several other collars for playtime. Indeed quite often kinky couples have one discreet collar for daily wear and a range of more extreme ones when its time to say "Yes Sir!".
The first thing you need to know is your partners neck size, as its kind of important to not be too tight or too loose. Once you know this ask your partner some important questions:
a) Would they like one ?
b) Would they wear it ?
c) If so when and were ?
These three questions should give you some idea. Some people, by the way, just don't like them. If so, your out of luck! If they want one for only wearing in the house, then you can choose a less discreet one. If they want to wear it all the time, a discreet, light one may be the order of the day. Please though, bear in mind that sometimes it just isn't appropriate to wear collars of any description. You get the idea, I'm sure. After all, would you want to put your loved one into any type of compromising situation ? I sincerely hope the answer is NO.
