- How to be the Dominant
- Role Playing BDSM for beginners
- Beginners Guide to Anal sex done right
- Guide to hoods & sensory deprivation
- Getting partners into the kinky game
- Beginners First Bondage Scene
- What BDSM Isn't
- The Dos & Don'ts in BDSM
- Laying the groundwork
- The Joy of Anal Sex
- How to get the juices flowing
- You are what you are
- Spank My Booty
- Staying Alive
- A First Public Scene
- Why We Like What We Like
- Nothing Says I Love You Like...
- Caring For Your Toys
- A Guide To Fisting For Fun
- Humiliation, Tying Up, and Exposed Genitals
- The Art of Wax Play
- New Items
- Bondage Gear
- ElectroSex Gear
- Dildos & Insertables
- Vibrating Sex Toys
- Cock and Ball Toys
- Fucking Machines
- Chastity Devices
- Strap Ons
- Nipple Toys
- Mouth Gags
- Remote Sex Toys
- Enema Devices
- Bondage Furniture
- Bedroom Bondage
- Hoods and Muzzles
- Fetish Clothing
- Penis Pumps
- Floggers & Whips
- Breast/Nipple Pumps
- Medical Toys
- Miscellaneous
- Fetish Books
- Lubes & Creams
Like anything worth doing, it takes time and planning. Being a kinkster, you probably already 
know this but the old adage is true: Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance.
What do we mean by this? Well just thinking about what you want to do or what you
want to achieve is a good start. A lot of time people rush up to the bedroom (or down to the dungeon) and then when they have no idea where the play is going it can go downhill rapidly. You also both have to have some idea of where you are both going, including hard limits as we discussed before.
Planning also takes out a lot of the guesswork involved. If you have a rough plan (we all realise things change, especially in this game) then it takes a bit of the pressure off you.
A plan needn't be hard and fast. Just discuss between you what type of scene you would like, where you want it to go, as well as anything you don't want
to attempt/retry. At this point you both know where you stand.
One absolutely key aspect that you can't overlook is the need to be safe. Safety
should be your first concern. We all know kinky is more fun but it also has a lot of potential safety concerns. Put safety above all else. An example of that is, if you tie someone up, make sure you dont leave them alone, make sure they can breathe without a problem and make sure you learn to tie knots properly. It all sounds like common sense? It is. Just be careful!!
Also put out some feelers as to how receptive your partner would be towards things you plan, but don't give the game away! Be secretive.
Start small, practice, play and have fun.
