- How to be the Dominant
- Role Playing BDSM for beginners
- Beginners Guide to Anal sex done right
- Guide to hoods & sensory deprivation
- Getting partners into the kinky game
- Beginners First Bondage Scene
- What BDSM Isn't
- The Dos & Don'ts in BDSM
- Laying the groundwork
- The Joy of Anal Sex
- How to get the juices flowing
- You are what you are
- Spank My Booty
- Staying Alive
- A First Public Scene
- Why We Like What We Like
- Nothing Says I Love You Like...
- Caring For Your Toys
- A Guide To Fisting For Fun
- Humiliation, Tying Up, and Exposed Genitals
- The Art of Wax Play
- New Items
- Bondage Gear
- ElectroSex Gear
- Dildos & Insertables
- Vibrating Sex Toys
- Cock and Ball Toys
- Fucking Machines
- Chastity Devices
- Strap Ons
- Nipple Toys
- Mouth Gags
- Remote Sex Toys
- Enema Devices
- Bondage Furniture
- Bedroom Bondage
- Hoods and Muzzles
- Fetish Clothing
- Penis Pumps
- Floggers & Whips
- Breast/Nipple Pumps
- Medical Toys
- Miscellaneous
- Fetish Books
- Lubes & Creams
It may seem obvious but when you are getting into bondage sex you will begin to realize the anticipation is as much fun as the actual act. It can help enhance the actual pleasure and act of kinky sex many times over. You know what its like to wait and wait for something and all the while knowing its going to be good.
So below are some tips to get the love juices flowing. Feel free to mix and match...variety IS the spice of life!
1. Keep your partners mind on the job!
The longer and more intense the stimulation, the more excited and frustrated your partner will be. So by that example, you could use a set of love beads in your ladies privates. So then if its a case of off to work she goes, every movement, every step will tease and make her moist. By the time she gets home from work, she will be dragging you to the bedroom
2. Enforce your authority
Now here is an interesting one. Take away your partners control...become the total focus of your partners thoughts (although do keep them away from driving and heavy machinery ;) )
Depending on how extreme you like it you could, for example, pick your partners underwear (or none) for the day. If its your husband or boyfriend, well maybe make him wear your silk knickers under his normal day clothes.
If you want to be a little more kinky and make him exceptionally submissive, use a chastity belt, like this one. It also means you will absolutely get his undivided attention. Of course there are female ones too.
3. Poor planning = poor time
It seems obvious, but many people overlook it. If your bedroom/playroom is tidy, cool and all toys, condoms etc are close by, then it makes the whole experience more pleasurable because you're less likely to hurt your foot when you step on something that shouldn't be on the floor whilst your blindfolded in your gimp suit ;) Suitable music also enhances the mood. The authors personal preference would be something along the lines of the music you can find here, here and here.
4. Upping the sexual tension
This is like taking someone to a sweetshop and then not letting them have any. If your partner is being a little bullish, use that most ingenious of devices, aka your fingers, to tease and pacify, like gently caressing their nipples whilst reaffirming who's in charge. Gently stroke other tender parts, just to tease, build their sexual desire to an unsustainable level and then they will be putty in your hands. Just be careful to not let them get too excited.
The above is just a taste of what you can do to spice up things and affirm control. This can be especially useful for shy partners who wish to try being in control.
Give it a whirl. You wont look back
