- How to be the Dominant
- Role Playing BDSM for beginners
- Beginners Guide to Anal sex done right
- Guide to hoods & sensory deprivation
- Getting partners into the kinky game
- Beginners First Bondage Scene
- What BDSM Isn't
- The Dos & Don'ts in BDSM
- Laying the groundwork
- The Joy of Anal Sex
- How to get the juices flowing
- You are what you are
- Spank My Booty
- Staying Alive
- A First Public Scene
- Why We Like What We Like
- Nothing Says I Love You Like...
- Caring For Your Toys
- A Guide To Fisting For Fun
- Humiliation, Tying Up, and Exposed Genitals
- The Art of Wax Play
- New Items
- Bondage Gear
- ElectroSex Gear
- Dildos & Insertables
- Vibrating Sex Toys
- Cock and Ball Toys
- Fucking Machines
- Chastity Devices
- Strap Ons
- Nipple Toys
- Mouth Gags
- Remote Sex Toys
- Enema Devices
- Bondage Furniture
- Bedroom Bondage
- Hoods and Muzzles
- Fetish Clothing
- Penis Pumps
- Floggers & Whips
- Breast/Nipple Pumps
- Medical Toys
- Miscellaneous
- Fetish Books
- Lubes & Creams
Anal sex, if done right, especially for men will open up a whole new level of sexual pleasure. Buried within the bum is the prostrate gland. This plays a very major part in male sexual gratification. So obviously you can understand that if the prostrate gland is massaged and touched it will arouse and highten the owners sexual pleasure no end.
Before we get to the good stuff, bear a few things in mind. Firstly that if it hurts, your doing it wrong. This is the golden rule. It will not be a good or pleasurable experience. It's as simple as that. Also if you are planning on 
sticking something up there, use lots and lots and lots (you get the idea) of lubricant. The anus does not self lubricate like the vagina, so you have to give it some help! Get it everywhere, toys, butt hole etc ;) Lastly, all sorts of waste products are excreted from there so cleaning and careful handling is the order of the day. Also never, ever, ever share anal toys. They can be a breading ground for bacteria and are not easily cleaned to be completely germ free.
Now with that out the way lets get onto the fun stuff. There are several ways you can have anal sex, most if not all massage the prostrate gland and cause great sexual pleasure. To get just a taster of how good it can be, why not lube up a finger (after you have been the toilet, and bathed your bum) and slowly insert it into your anus. Very enjoyable feeling. Want to increase the feeling ? Read on Butt plugs, thats what you need. Obviously, you would like to be able to take a strapon later (yummy yummy yummy), but for now start small. Small is the order of the day. I learnt the hard way here. Being a young perv, without the internet, I ventured into the local sex shop, ignored the advice of the shop assistant and bought a large plug, thinking the small one was, well, too small. I went home and tried it without lubrication. To say it was a painful exercise in pain and frustration would be an understatement. I bled for several days until I got the courage to go to the Doctor, who informed me I had torn my anus! It would heal but it was a close call. I didn't mention sex toys, so he just assumed I had a gay lover ;) I can laugh now!
So my advice to enable you to have fun, safely, and not get frustrated, is to buy a pack of them, like these. What you gonna do with 3 dildos ? Use em of course. In all seriousness, it will allow you to experiment, firstly with small ones. If they are too small you can work up till you find one that suits you. Nothing more frustrating than not having the right sex toy to hand and having to wait for a new one to be delivered, hoping this size will be better. Get your bases covered. Believe me, although they may look small, they feel huge when you put them inside you. Really.
You can always tell proper dildos because they have a tapered end to prevent them being sucked up into your bum. Your bum acts like a vacuum where foreign objects are concerned. Need I say this? Basically be careful what you want to put up there.
Also over time you can train your anus to accept bigger and bigger dildos. Dildo training is quite interesting because it helps over time to accomodate ever larger dildos. Lets not even mention that it can be used a tool of humiliation by a Mistress and make you all that more submissive when she requires it ;)
At first using a dildo is very strange. It makes you think you need the toilet. You don't, its just you feel like you do. To get used to it, wear it for gradually increasing lengths of time. Say 5 minutes the first day (it really will feel longer) and then increase it by 5 minutes a day. You are becoming anally trained ;) Eventually you may like to move to a bigger size, so feel free, remembering the golden rules at the beginning of this article (lube and patience and no forcing things)
The best thing though, is that all this activity will massage the prostrate for you and you will get hard more or less instantly (well I do!) and if you climax with one inside you, you will have one of the biggest orgasms you ever had. Take the best one you had, multiply it by 10 and then you may be somewhere close. If your partner wants to help, get her to pull out the butt plug just as you climax, now that is one died and gone to heaven feeling.
If you need to remove it, its quite straight forward, just lean forward and slowly ease it out. It will feel strange, but the anus is designed to expel things, and a dildo is no different. Relaxing and taking your time is the order of the day. Don't forget, if you have just come, your anus muscle is still hanging tight on what you stuck up there. Obviously you will want to clean your toys after you've finished with them. Check out a previous article on how to clean your toys
Before you know it, you will be a huge anal slut and loving it. Eventually you may even get to wear one to work. Eventually as you get more and more into it, you may even graduate to one of these babies, and believe me, the vibrating takes it to another level. A sperm whale has nothing on me with this badboy inside!
Later on, in part two and three, we can begin to cover other butt related sex things, such as buying and using a strapon, and how to milk your man without letting him orgasm, by massaging the prostrate gland.
